It’s your girl Shan once again! (At the moment, I’m battling a throat infection and a chest infection while battling with my mental illnesses. So, I’m all over the place really so I’m sorry!)
I’ve got the Britney song toxic in my head now.. Oh damn!
We’ve all had a toxic friendship at times. But we all have true friendships which mean the most to us.
The definition of toxic friends: “friend” who belittles you, bully’s you, or hurts your feelings in general. A person who you care about even though they probably don’t care about you. A person who you like when you’re around them, but hate when you’re away from them. Could also be controlling. – Urban Dictionary.
The definition of true friends: True friendship is when someone knows you better than yourself and takes a position in your best interests in a crisis. Friendship goes beyond just sharing time together, and it is long lasting. Friendship can mean different things to different people. – Friends.com
Toxic friendships can be damaging to our phyiscal and our mental healths. The drama you don’t need. The stress. The arugmments. I wanted to be do a post about friendships the dos and the don’ts.
True friends can be a blessing to us all. When we are in our darkest hours, we could ring our friends then they will support us with some kind and true words what are needed.
The Do’s to the good friendship.
- Be supportive with thier goals and dreams.
- Give your honest opinion to your friends.
- If seems as if something isn’t right – don’t pressure them into talking but let them know that you’re there if they want to talk.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Be the friend you want to have.
- Respect thier decisions and choices.
- Always listen to what they say and give your best advice.
What not to do to your friendship.
- Don’t be horrible and ruin thier dreams! Always show your friends that you support them with their decsions.
- Don’t talk behind thier backs.
- Don’t judge them and don’t belittle them infront of people you both know.
- Don’t get with thier exes.
- Don’t end your friendship if you had a little argugment.
- Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
- Don’t be controlling over your freinds.
There are my best tips. I loved writing these posts so watch out for the dos and don’ts of relationships.
I shall love you and leave you until my next post guys.
Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you.
You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all.
You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day. You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else. God Bless x
Here is some numbers to contact if you are expierencing a mental health crisis:
Samaritians- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week:
Call this number – 116 123
Email address is Jo@samaritans.org
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men! 5pm to midnight every day.
Call this number: 0800 58 58 58
Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat
Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm.
Phone number: 0800 068 41 41
Text Number: 07786 209697
Childline- For children and young people under 19.
Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill)
The Silver Line- For older people
Call: 0800 4 70 80 90
In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433
In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14
Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK:
- Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment.
- Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need.
- Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one.
Love, Shannon Diana xx
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