Dating in 2018 is hard but dating in 2018 while battling a mental illness is ten times harder and here is why…

Hey, Beautiful! How are you today? I hope you are all okay and if you aren’t feeling ok. Just remember that’s it ok not to be ok and I hope you can get the right support you need and if you want to talk please remember that I’m here and the correct charities are here to support you!

You’ve got the Flames to dust
Lovers to friends
Why do all good things come to an end mood from Nelly Furtado then you’ve got the Thank you, next
I’m so fuckin’ grateful for my ex Then God is a woman mood from Ariana Grande.. 

And by all means.. THAT’S OK! Sing your lungs out, brothers and sisters. I do when I’m feeling shit and it’s starting to work as a coping mechanism. 

Today I want to talk about dating while you are battling an invisible illness and what happens when you start talking to someone then you drop the I’ve got a mental illness because you want to be 100% honest. What seems to be a bombshell to others and that beautiful app called tinder.. (You can tell I hate tinder and any form of dating apps with a passion after my bad experiences!) 

The reason why I have so much hatred for tinder is that it’s a basic hook up site yeah.. I understand that and by means, that’s ok but SAFE SEX, please. but SOME) I said some because it is some not all the male population.  Some have the nerve to insult you. Some have the nerve to be dishonest to you and basically play you like a game which I’m not a game. If I was a game. I’d be called sims or something, not Shannon Diana.

(I hear some girls are the same by my friends) 

I deserve love and affection and respect. Just like any other human. I don’t need lies and being taken advantage off just for sex.  By all means, if you just want casual sex, have it and be safe. I did the causal sex part and I learnt the hard way because I got hurt. Right now, I’m just waiting for the one to come into my life because I’m done swiping left and right every night. I want to accept my love for myself first because I show another person, my love. 

These are some of the things I’ve been told when I said oh I have a mental illness. So, I can be honest and upfront. 

  • Oh, you’re crazy then. 
  • Please don’t kill me.
  • You’re dangerous then.
  • Just get over it. 
  • Aw, you are sexy but your head is fucked. 
  • You’re a psycho. 
  • Hide the razors. 
  • You should be on undateables! 

What they should have said… 

  • You can beat this. 
  • That’s okay, that doesn’t make you different. 
  • Don’t ever give up. 
  • I’ll help you whatever help you need. 
  • I support you. 
  • We can get through this together, you are not on your own. 
  • You aren’t alone. 
  • I might now understand but I am trying to understand for you. 

Check up and ask twice on that bubbly friend or family member. 

Check up and ask twice on that quiet friend or family member. 

Check up and ask twice on that sad friend or family member.

Check up and ask twice on that happy friend or family member. 

Check up and ask twice on everyone. 

I WANT TO REMIND YOU THAT YOU ARE:- 

YOU ARE INCREDIBLE. 

YOU ARE LOVED.

YOU ARE AMAZING. 

YOU ARE WORTH IT.  

YOU ARE VALUED. 

YOU ARE WANTED AND NEEDED. 

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Love From Shannon Diana xx

Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am

I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors! 

If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone. 

I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much. 

Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you. 

You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all. 

You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day.  You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.

Here is some numbers to contact if you are expierencing a mental health crisis: 

Samaritians- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week: 

Call this number – 116 123 

Email address is Jo@samaritans.org 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men!  5pm to midnight every day.

Call this number: 0800 58 58 58 

Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat

Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm. 

Phone number: 0800 068 41 41 

Text Number: 07786 209697

Email: Pat@papyrus-uk.org

Childline- For children and young people under 19. 

Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill) 

The Silver Line- For older people 

Call: 0800 4 70 80 90 

In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433

In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14

In other countries- Visit ISAP OR Suicide.org to find a helpline in your country. 

Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK: 

  1. Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment. 
  2. Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need. 
  3. Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one. 

If you would like to contact me for PR or any collaborations or even support if you are going through a bad time. Please follow my social media accounts and email me.

Instagram- @Shannondianaxx  

Twitter- @SDianaax 

Email- ShannonDianax@outlook.com

Facebook Page- Mental Health & My Life

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