Male Mental Health. We need to talk about it.

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Hello, my lovely followers and readers of my blog! I hope you haven’t missed me that much! 

 I hope you are all okay and if you aren’t feeling ok. Just remember that’s it ok not to be ok and I hope you can get the right support you need and if you want to talk please remember that I’m here and the correct charities are here to support you!

If you haven’t seen my mental health-related recent blog post: Revisiting 2018.  Please check it out, my loves! 

Yeah, I know I’m not a male and I don’t have the male parts but male mental health is so important just like female mental health. I want to talk about male mental health as it is so stigmatized in today society.  Everybody has mental health. 

I spoke to my nan on the phone about how male mental health was portrayed before I was born and she said this:

There wasn’t any awareness of mental health for males or even females at all. It wasn’t spoken about. It was like that topic was brushed under the carpet with many other topics. Grandad (Her dad.) was told in the Army to get over his shell shock (PTSD)  after seeing his best friend killed in front of him.

Male mental health is not a joke. 

Suicide is the biggest killer in men under 45. 

Male celebrities who have spoken about mental health and mental illnesses. 

  1. Ryan Reynolds (Aka Deadpool)Anxiety – “I have anxiety, I’ve always had anxiety,” Reynolds said. “Both in the lighthearted ‘I’m anxious about this’ kind of thing, and I’ve been to the depths of the darker end of the spectrum, which is not fun.” 
  2. Prince Harry (Royal Family) – Depression after Princess Diana died in a car crash. “Because of the process I have been through over the past two and a half years, I’ve now been able to take my work seriously, been able to take my private life seriously as well, and been able to put blood, sweat and tears into the things that really make a difference and things that I think will make a difference to everybody else,” 
  3. Stormzy (Rapper)Suicidal thoughts  “If there’s anyone out there going through that, I think that for them to see that I went through it would help.”
  4. Will Young (X Factor winner, Singer) – “take the edge off” By talking about his problems and taking medication.
  5. David Beckham (Footballer) Obsessive Compulsive Disorder(OCD) “Mental illness doesn’t care what’s in your bank account or what you do for a living”. 
  6. Adam Levine (Maroon 5 Singer)  ADHD “Remember that you are not alone. There are others going through the same thing.”
  7. Professor Green (Rapper and has made documentaries on male suicide and male mental health) “We have to figure out a way that men can talk to one another and figure out how to make themselves feel better”. 
  8. Zayn Malik (Singer) Anxiety & Eating Disorder  ‘We’re all human. People are often afraid to admit difficulties, but I don’t believe that there should be a struggle with anything that’s the truth”
  9. James Arthur (Singer/Rapper)  “Anxiety is something that is very close to my heart,” “I suffer daily. Music can help that.” “I want to let people know if I can do these things, things I’m not comfortable with, anyone can.”
  10. Pete Davidson (Actor/Comedian) BPD(Borderline Personality Disorder)  “It is working, slowly but surely,” “I’ve been having a lot of problems. This whole year has been a fucking nightmare. This has been the worst year of my life, getting diagnosed with this and trying to figure out how to learn with this and live with this.”

If I had a boyfriend and who was suffering from mental health issues. I would encourage him to get the help he needed and to talk to me. I would daily tell him that it’s okay not to be okay and it’s okay to feel this way and this feeling will be treated. I would tell him that it’s not a failure as a man if he felt like he was. Because mental illnesses and physical illnesses aren’t failures. They are just hurdles you have to jump over is a human being and you are strong and a warrior for battling these demons. 

It’s okay not to be okay you know, you don’t need to hide your feelings or problems. 

Weakness isn’t a failure. 

You don’t need to man up if you feel sad or suicidal. You need to talk to someone. Talking will save males lives. 

 Till next time! 

With lots of love!

Shannon Diana xx

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Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am

I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors! 

If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone. 

I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much. 

Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you. 

You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all. 

You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day.  You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.

Here is some numbers to contact if you are experiencing a mental health crisis: 

Samaritans- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week: 

Call this number – 116 123 

Email address is Jo@samaritans.org 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men!  5pm to midnight every day.

Call this number: 0800 58 58 58 

Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat

Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm. 

Phone number: 0800 068 41 41 

Text Number: 07786 209697

Email: Pat@papyrus-uk.org

Childline- For children and young people under 19. 

Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill) 

The Silver Line- For older people 

Call: 0800 4 70 80 90 

In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433

In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14

In other countries- Visit ISAP OR Suicide.org to find a helpline in your country. 

Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK: 

  1. Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment. 
  2. Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need. 
  3. Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one. 

If you would like to contact me for PR or any collaborations or even support if you are going through a bad time. Please follow my social media accounts and email me.

Instagram- @Shannondianaxx  

Twitter- @SDianaax 

Email- ShannonDianax@outlook.com

Facebook Page- Mental Health & My Life

 

9 comments on “Male Mental Health. We need to talk about it.”

  1. This is really so important and it’s amazing that you are talking about it. My boyfriend went through a bad bout of depression last year and it took a lot of convincing for him to get help xx

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