Mental Health Monday

Gaslighting Awareness

Hello, my lovely followers and readers of my blog! I hope you haven’t missed me that much! 

 I hope you are all okay and if you aren’t feeling ok. Just remember that’s it ok not to be ok and I hope you can get the right support you need and if you want to talk please remember that I’m here and the correct charities are here to support you!

I want to include this page as it’s important. – Support Lines – For survivors and victims of abuse

This is one of my serious posts. 

I’ve been a victim of gaslighting before and it completely ruined me. It was a trigger to a relapse of my recovery. The reasons why I wanted to write this important subject as recently. I was gaslighted. I want to share awareness and I most importantly want to save lives from this.  

I’m not a trained professional or a councillor but I can listen and relate as I’ve been a survivor and victim of sexual abuse and listening is the most important skill and that can help people by listening and being non-judgemental towards them. 

So let’s begin.

Definition of gas lighting from Healthy Place – Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the victim into distrusting his or her own memory and perceptions. Gaslighting is an insidious form of abuse. It makes victims question the very instincts that they have counted on their whole lives, making them unsure of anything. Gaslighting makes it very likely that victims will believe whatever their abusers tell them regardless as to their own experience of the situation. Gaslighting often precedes other types of emotional and physical abuse because the victim of gaslighting is more likely to remain in other abusive situations as well. The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1938 British play “Gas Light” wherein a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy using a variety of tricks causing her to question her own perceptions and sanity. Gas Light was made into a movie both in 1940 and 1944.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse. Gaslighting does not have a type. It can happen to anyone regardless of gender, age, race, colour or culture. Gaslighting doesn’t always have to be in a relationship. It happens in friendships and families.

Signs of Gaslighting –

  • You’re always apologizing to your partner, friends and family members.
  • No longer feeling like the person you used to be.
  • Being more anxious and less confident than you used to be.
  • Always thinking that it’s your fault when stuff goes wrong.
  • Making excuses for your partner/friends/family members behaviour
  • Finding it increasingly hard to make decisions.
  • Feeling hopeless and taking little or no pleasure in activities you used to enjoy.
  • Something is “off” about your friend, partner, son, daughter, mother, father, sister, brother, colleagues, boss, or another person in your life … but you can’t quite explain or pinpoint what.
  • You feel threatened and on-edge around this person, but you don’t know why.
  • You feel isolated, hopeless, misunderstood and depressed.
  • You find it hard to trust your own judgment, and given a choice, you choose to believe the judgment of the abuser.
  • You feel scared and as though “something is terribly wrong,” but you don’t know what or why.
  • You find it hard to make decisions because you distrust yourself.
  • You feel as though you’re a much weaker version of yourself, and you were much more strong and confident in the past.
  • You feel guilty for not feeling happy like you used to.

Gaslighting Techniques –

  • Discrediting you. 
  • Changing the subject.
  • Minimizing. 
  • Denial. 
  • Avoidance. 
  • Mask of confidence.
  • Assertiveness. 
  • Fake compassion. 

 

If you are a victim of gaslighting. PLEASE get out of it now. Please talk. I’m always going to be here. 

I want to include this page as it’s important. – Support Lines – For survivors and victims of abuse

 Till next time! 

With lots of love!

Shannon Diana xx

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Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am

I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors! 

If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone. 

I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much. 

Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you. 

You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all. 

You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day.  You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.

Here is some numbers to contact if you are experiencing a mental health crisis: 

Samaritans- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week: 

Call this number – 116 123 

Email address is Jo@samaritans.org 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men!  5pm to midnight every day.

Call this number: 0800 58 58 58 

Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat

Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm. 

Phone number: 0800 068 41 41 

Text Number: 07786 209697

Email: Pat@papyrus-uk.org

Childline- For children and young people under 19. 

Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill) 

The Silver Line- For older people 

Call: 0800 4 70 80 90 

In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433

In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14

In other countries- Visit ISAP OR Suicide.org to find a helpline in your country. 

Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK: 

  1. Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment. 
  2. Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need. 
  3. Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one. 

If you would like to contact me for PR or any collaborations or even support if you are going through a bad time. Please follow my social media accounts and email me.

Instagram- @Shannondianaxx  

Twitter- @SDianaax 

Email- ShannonDianax@outlook.com

Facebook Page- Mental Health & My Life

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