Hello, my lovely followers and readers of my blog! I hope you haven’t missed me that much! 😉
I hope you are all okay and if you aren’t feeling ok. Just remember that’s it ok not to be ok and I hope you can get the right support you need and if you want to talk please remember that I’m here and the correct charities are here to support you!
Dear 30-year-old Shan.
Our paths won’t cross for nine years but I wanted to write you this letter. You are in your twenties now and you are going through a stressful time at the moment of your life with money problems and life in general. Just so when you are 30, you can look back to this and think damn I can survive! You haven’t found your Mr right yet but you don’t need to worry about that as you will find that special man sometimes in your life. We need to get some things straight me and you. So this is what I want to tell you.
1- Don’t ever doubt yourself, Shan-
You do this a lot lately and I just wish you didn’t because you have battled through some heartbreaking stuff in your short life and you are still here and I’m proud of you for fighting for every single breath you are taking because I know how hard that is when you are feeling suicidal.
2- DO NOT BOTTLE THINGS UP SHAN! –
You have this forte of bottling all your emotions up then one little thing causes you to feel more pain. Please, when you are feeling this low. Speak to someone on how you are feeling. Don’t battle in silence.
3- Get rid of toxic people in your life.
You don’t need it, Shan. You don’t need the upset in your life as you are a growing young lady! You need support and motivation. No drama and no fake friends! You realised who sticks around when you have something bad happen to you and not many people did.
4- You can be whoever you want to be gal.
You are still counted as a blogger whether you post every single day or each month. You aren’t failing to blog. You just needed a rest and to think about life. In career-wise, I hope you are speaking up about mental health to schools and the public and I want you to one day in your life say “ah I’ve made it!” because I believe in you whether right now you think the world is against you.
5- This bad time will past-
I want you to know whether you are in your bed crying or on your sofa blasting music in your headphones to stop the dark intrusive thoughts that the bad times will be replaced with good times soon and you will see your own rainbow with the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!
6- Don’t neglect your self care-
DO SELFCARE EVERY DAY. Self care is an important thing for recovering with a mental illness or physical illness.
7- You will learn how to manage this illness.
Don’t ever lose hope. You aren’t a victim of mental illness. You are a warrior. Warriors who are battling their minds every single minute of the day is a scary thing when your mind is telling you untrue things.
8- You will be happy!
You will find that special someone and you will have children. I can’t tell you exactly when as I’m 21 years old and I haven’t planned the whole marriage and children situation but when you find that special someone.
Please remember this though.
- You are loved.
- You are beautiful.
- I’m proud of you all.
- You are wanted.
- You are good enough.
- You deserve to be happy.
- Your recovery is going to be so worth it.
- Keep fighting babes, I love ya!
Keep fighting Shan. Love you from a young 21-year-old Shan!
Till next time!
With lots of love!
Shannon Diana xx
Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am.
I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors!
If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone.
I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much.
Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you.
You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all.
You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day. You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.
Here is some numbers to contact if you are experiencing a mental health crisis:
Samaritans- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week:
Call this number – 116 123
Email address is Jo@samaritans.org
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men! 5pm to midnight every day.
Call this number: 0800 58 58 58
Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat
Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm.
Phone number: 0800 068 41 41
Text Number: 07786 209697
Childline- For children and young people under 19.
Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill)
The Silver Line- For older people
Call: 0800 4 70 80 90
In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433
In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14
Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK:
- Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment.
- Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need.
- Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one.
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