Hello, my lovely followers and readers of my blog! I hope you haven’t missed me that much! 😉
I hope you are all okay and if you aren’t feeling ok. Just remember that’s it ok not to be ok and I hope you can get the right support you need and if you want to talk please remember that I’m here and the correct charities are here to support you!
So today I’m going to be writing a post about 8 things not to say to someone who is battling a mental illness. Truly there is more than eight, but we’d be here for days, but the main ones are these and I hope you enjoy this post!
Number 1: Snap out of it –
This must be the worst thing to say to someone who is going through a mental health problem. If we could don’t you think we would off? It makes us feel like a burden to our healthcare professionals and families also if you keep telling us just to snap out of it. I got the “Snap out of it” lots of times when I first opened up with my mental health problems.
Number 2: You’d feel better if you got off those medications they are giving you–
Sadly currently treating mental illnesses with medication is so stigmatized and, in all reality, I still can’t believe there is the stigma attached to medication as they have saved so many lives of people who are battling any mental illness. I take antidepressants and a mood stabilizer, and you do not see fluffy white bunnies jumping around the place. My medication has saved my life and I’m not ashamed of taking medication what is saving my life. Answer me this. You’d take medication for physical illnesses? So, why judge someone who’s taking medication for their mental health. Mental health is important just like physical health.
Number 3: You just need a good laugh then you won’t have a bad head-
Just because I have mental illnesses it doesn’t mean I don’t have the same emotions as anyone else. I still laugh, and I still cry. I wish a good laugh would fix my problems but sadly it doesn’t.
Number 4: You don’t know how lucky you are, things could be worse for you –
Yes, I agree things could be worse but at the same time while I’m feeling down and worthless that isn’t a thing what I’d like to hear as it makes me feel lower and a burden to my family. Things could be worse, of course, it can. but now, the person who is battling the mental illness are feeling this is the worst thing ever and saying things like that aren’t helping one bit.
Number 5: I’m sure you will feel better once you’ve had a decent night sleep and changed your lifestyle choices-
I really wish a good night sleep would help. Yes, changing your diet and lifestyle choices might help improve your mental health but it doesn’t fix the problem. I haven’t had a good night sleep since I was a kid and now I’m 20 years old.
Number 6: You don’t look ill though so you must be lying–
I’ve had this more times than I’ve had hot dinners and that is a lot! Just because I don’t have a plaster or a broken part of my body doesn’t mean I’m not ill. Mental Illnesses are invisible, and the symptoms are visible. Don’t judge a book by its cover as you have no idea what that person is going through. I’ve had times where I look amazing and clean clothes and inside I’m breaking down and wishing I was dead. Mental Illness doesn’t have a look.
Number 7: You need to make more effort with yourself then you’ll feel better-
There are some days when I’m fully dressed and wearing a full face of makeup within an hour then there are days where I can’t get myself out bed as my energy has been zapped and I feel so weak. I can’t pick these days.
Number 8: You will get over it soon and you’ll laugh about how silly you were-
This is a stupid thing to say to someone and I got told that by someone who was a follower on my Instagram. Mental Illness isn’t something to laugh and joke about. It’s a serious and common illness. Also, “you will get over it” bit is so stupid as it stops someone from going to their doctors and getting help as they think that they might be silly if they ask for help. Which is not true at all. You are not silly if you ask for help.
There are more than eight things, but we’d be here all day if I wrote every single one what I’ve got told when I first started to open up about my mental health. If you do battle a mental illness you are a warrior, not a loser. Because nothing is harder than fighting with your own brain. Trust me, I know what it feels like to be discriminated against just because I am ill.
Till next time!
With lots of love!
Shannon Diana xx
Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am.
I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors!
If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone.
I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much.
Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you.
You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all.
You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day. You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.
Here is some numbers to contact if you are experiencing a mental health crisis:
Samaritans- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week:
Call this number – 116 123
Email address is Jo@samaritans.org
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men! 5pm to midnight every day.
Call this number: 0800 58 58 58
Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat
Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm.
Phone number: 0800 068 41 41
Text Number: 07786 209697
Childline- For children and young people under 19.
Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill)
The Silver Line- For older people
Call: 0800 4 70 80 90
In the US: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Hopeline Network at 1-800-784-2433
In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14
Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK:
- Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment.
- Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need.
- Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one.
If you would like to contact me for PR or any collaborations or even support if you are going through a bad time. Please follow my social media accounts and email me.
Facebook Page- Mental Health & My Life