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BP IS SHORTENED AS BIPOLAR!
Today post is about 10 things not to say to someone who has BP. Truly there is more than ten, but we’d be here for days, I hope you enjoy this post! I will write a part 2 in the future.
Number 1 – You must be great in bed but you must be a nightmare to live with…
This grinds my gears so much. Just because I have BP, it doesn’t mean I’m a porn star. Let’s be realistic here… Yes, hyper-sexuality is a symptom of bipolar. Just because I have a high sex drive when I’m having a manic episode, it does not mean I’m the next porn star in the making.
Also, I’m not a nightmare. I’m human but I got blessed and cursed with BP. My moods don’t depend on another human. I manage my moods, I take the correct meds and I have a brilliant treatment plan. So, please stop calling us a nightmare, you have no idea what having bipolar is like..
Number 2 – Just snap out of it…
This must be the worst thing to say to someone who has BP. If we could don’t you think we would off? It makes us feel like a burden to our healthcare professionals and families, if you keep telling us just to snap out of it. I got the “Snap out of it” lots of times when I first opened up with my struggles about my mind..
PLEASE BAN THIS SENTENCE. It’s not needed or helpful at all. Stop this now…
Number 3 – There are people worse off than you, stop attention seeking..
I’m well aware of that, I read the newspaper. That sentence can make it 1000% worse as that little sentence can stop us communicating with our health professionals and friends, that could be a reason why we don’t speak about how we feel. That could be a reason, our mental well-beings decline. In case we get that sentence thrown in our faces. I have BP but I’m not stupid. Don’t treat me like I’m stupid.
We feel bad as it is. We don’t need a constant reminder.
Number 4 – You’d feel better if you got off those medications they are giving you.
NAH MAAAAATE, THEY ARE KEEPING ME ALIVE EACH BLOODY DAY!
Sadly currently treating BP with medication is so stigmatized and, in all reality, I still can’t believe there is the stigma attached to medication as they have saved so many lives of people who are battling any mental illness. I take an antidepressant called PAROXETINE and an antipsychotic called QUETIAPINE , and you do not see fluffy white bunnies jumping around the place. My medication has saved my life and I’m not ashamed of taking medication what is saving my life. Answer me this. You’d take medication for physical illnesses? So, why judge someone who’s taking medication for their mental health. Mental health is important just like physical health. PREACH IT SISTER SHAN!
Number 5 – You don’t look ill though so you must be lying about it
I’ve had this more times than I’ve had hot dinners and that is a lot! Just because I don’t have a plaster or a broken part of my body doesn’t mean I’m not ill. Mental Illnesses are invisible, and the symptoms are visible. Don’t judge a book by its cover as you have no idea what that person is going through. I’ve had times where I look amazing and clean clothes and inside I’m breaking down and wishing I was dead. Mental Illness doesn’t have a look. BP doesn’t have a BP look. Just don’t judge. Be supportive and have peace in your life.
Number 6 – “Hearing – You’re so Bipolar!” Every minute of your bloody life.
No, really, oh my gosh. I nearly forgot about it for a second.. We don’t need a reminder that we have BP. We live with it. 24/7. The symptoms just don’t disappear when you have medication.
Number 7 – I’m sure you will feel better once you’ve had a decent night sleep and changed your lifestyle choices-
I really wish a good night sleep would clear my BP. Yes, changing your diet and lifestyle choices might help improve your mindset but it doesn’t fix that you have BP. I haven’t had a good night sleep since I was a kid and now I’m 21 years old. Just support us. Don’t judge us.
Number 8 – Lock her up. She’s probably going to kill her self..
While your concern is keeping an eye out on me and I’m very grateful for that. But, I may not have even been thinking about suicide. Now that you mention it… Are you suggesting I kill myself? Rational behaviour or thinking isn’t always present when someone is having a depressive or manic episode, talking about suicide could be a major trigger and could put ideas into that person mind and make the situation 1000% worse, I don’t need to be lock up as I’m not an animal. I’m human. I deserve respect and human rights.
Number 9 – You need to make more effort with yourself then you’ll feel better
There are some days when I’m fully dressed and wearing a full face of makeup within an hour then there are days where I can’t get myself out bed as my energy has been zapped and I feel so weak. I can’t pick those days. I could be feeling so tired in the morning then when it hits 7pm, I’m awake and so energetic, I’d probably beat sonic in a race.
Number 10 –
There are more than ten things, but we’d be here all day if I wrote every single one what I’ve got told when I first started to open up about my mental health. If you do battle a mental illness you are a warrior, not a loser. Because nothing is harder than fighting with your own brain. Trust me, I know what it feels like to be discriminated against just because I am ill.
Till next time!
With lots of love!
Shannon Diana xx
Mental illness isn’t going to get the last laugh. I am.
I fight for my health and for other people’s health every single day in a way most people won’t understand, we aren’t lazy. We are warriors!
If you don’t feel like talking to yet, I’ll always be here and I’ll help out any way I can. You aren’t alone.
I know how it feels to be pushed aside. But listen, you are amazing and I’m proud of you so much.
Just so you know, it’s okay not to be okay you know, even the happiest person in the universe has their bad days. You can get through this dark hole. I believe in you.
You are loved. You are worth the fight. You are more than your illnesses, you can fight this I believe in you. You are flawless. You are fabulous. You aren’t alone. You are amazing and I’m proud of you all.
You can beat these thoughts. I believe in you. I will always be there for you even if it’s on the internet or email or even in person one day. You are loved. You are needed in this world because you are YOU. You are badass for battling mental illness daily. I care about every single one of you. You are more than enough. You don’t need to please anyone else.
Here is some numbers to contact if you are experiencing a mental health crisis:
Samaritans- For everyone! 24 hours, 7 days a week:
Call this number – 116 123
Email address is Jo@samaritans.org
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – For Men! 5pm to midnight every day.
Call this number: 0800 58 58 58
Webpage chat room if you don’t want to phone the link is: Webpage Chat
Papyrus- For people under 35! Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm. Bank Holidays 2pm to 5pm.
Phone number: 0800 068 41 41
Text Number: 07786 209697
Childline- For children and young people under 19.
Call 0800 1111 (Number won’t show up on your phone bill)
The Silver Line- For older people
Call: 0800 4 70 80 90
In Austraila- Call Lifeline Austraila at 13 11 14
Other places you could go or ring in a crisis in UK:
- Call your GP- Ask for an emergency appointment.
- Call 111 – Out of hours- They will help you find the support and help you need.
- Contact your mental health crisis team if you have one.
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